LETTER TO THE OTHER WOMAN

Yesterday I made the decision to adopt my son's last name as my own.Not that his dad has finally put a ring on it or anything but because I'm proud of the Mutua name. Wedding or no wedding, I'm a strong believer in giving a child his father's name. This gives him some form of identity, a sense of belonging, that feeling of having a home. After all he is not a fatherless child, a bastard so why would I torture him by giving him his mother's name, a... woman's name? I'm trying to raise a man for heaven's sake. But who is a fatherless child really? Everyone has a dad somewhere,right? What makes a child a bastard? His dad is barely there, sees him once or twice an year, occasionally send KES.1000 or KES.2000 with the 30 on top , withdrawal charges, how thoughtful. While I break my barely there bones to fend for our son.Provide food,shelter, education and everything nice for OUR son. Him always hiding under the umbrella of being broke, he has no money, he says. While the truth is he can afford to pull 50% of the load, make things easier for me, make life better for our son he simply refuses to. Instead he's been running around the country with another girl, partying, living large and having the time of their lives to the extent of having another child. So he can afford the luxury of having another child but he's too broke to ''HELP'' raise my son. While children are innocent creatures and blessings what do we with "the other woman" disease that has widely been accepted by this troubled millennial generation, the baby mama/baby daddy pandemic .How do you lay in bed with a dead beat dad and go as far as bearing a child for him? What type of monster feeds off another woman's pain? I'm I supposed to fight her? and if I succeed in chasing 'the devil' away, how many more will I have to fight after her? Do I complain? HELL YEAH! Who said a woman's job is to suffer in silence while another woman admittedly steals her man and takes over her home. What happened to sisterhood?The ugly truth, women are their own worst enemies. The Jezebels of our society are celebrated. She is smart and I'm stupid for allowing her to steal my mindless man. Because men are weak, they're like children and you hv to watch their every move, they stray like dogs, the same men we let head our families. While that chapter of my life is closed, the sad truth is my son will forever be his son too. So I adopt my son's last name. Because I'm both mom and dad , because I'm all the parents he has, because I'm proud of my son hence I'm proud of the Mutua name, because he is not a fatherless child but a child who's father is busy living it up with THE OTHER WOMAN! #raisingmen #momofboys #notababymama